Four things to do to feel safer in life
In a world filled with uncertainties, one of our deepest needs is to feel safe and secure. While seeking support from others is essential, there's something uniquely empowering about cultivating a sense of safety within ourselves. Join me to explore why it's crucial to nurture our personal sense of safety and how it empowers us to navigate life's challenges with authenticity and strength.
Laugh at Our Imperfections
A few days ago, while I was enjoying a game night with my friends, and then it happened, I mispronounced a simple word, turning "pawn" into "porn." The room burst into laughter, and I was at a crossroads. In the past, this might have left me feeling embarrassed and defensive. But now, something has changed.
I found myself embracing vulnerability and joining in the laughter. After all, it was just a harmless mistake, and the situation is surprisingly hilarious! Embracing our imperfections allows us to be kinder to ourselves and fosters a stronger sense of self-assurance.
We are brainwashed that we always have to be perfect in front of everyone, but it’s only when we embrace our imperfections that we can feel safe and be ourselves. When we allow ourselves to make mistakes, we give ourselves permission to accept our true selves.
Finding Our tribes
What happened to me could be completely different if it happened with a different group of people. Imagine I made that mistake in front of my client. That would be awkward. That’s why it’s important to find your tribe, people who share the same wavelength with you. Those who understand where you come from and let you become vulnerable without being scared.
Just like our beloved pets provide comfort during difficult moments, these friends become our emotional allies, giving us the strength to face life's challenges head-on. However, we can't ignore the fact that human connections sometimes come with judgment and hurt. A journey to find our people is a challenge in itself.
It's important to strike a balance between trust and self-preservation so we can nurture genuine connections while caring for our hearts.
Heal Our Emotional Wounds
Life isn't always fair, and some of us grew up in less-than-ideal environments. Whether it was dealing with traumatized parents or experiencing betrayals from trusted friends or partners, these experiences can leave lasting emotional scars.
The path to finding safety within ourselves begins with acknowledging and processing these wounds. By confronting our past traumas, we take the first steps toward reclaiming our sense of security. The road to inner safety is paved with emotional resilience. It's about recognizing our triggers and understanding how past experiences influence our present reactions. Building resilience doesn't mean we become invincible; rather, it's about bouncing back from setbacks and adversities with newfound strength. This inner fortitude allows us to face life's uncertainties with a sense of confidence.
These paths can be emotional, and may take a lot of mental strength to process your past and emotions. If you have never done this before, I’d recommend going slow; better yet, reach out to a mental health services professional such as a therapist or life coach. They are trained with skills that can help you safely explore yourself.
Adapt Growth Mindset
Mistakes don’t make us a failure. Tangle ourselves in past mistakes does. We often catastrophize our mistakes. We think that one mistake will take everything from us. When one mistake could erase every progress we’ve made in life, it’s understandable why we’re so scared of this world.
One of the most powerful tools on our journey to self-safety is self-compassion. Imagine how we console a dear friend during tough times - now, let's extend that same empathy and understanding to ourselves.
Embracing self-compassion creates a safe space within our minds, free from self-criticism. We realize that it's okay to be imperfect because that's what makes us human. Yes, it’s okay to make mistakes as long as you accept them and are willing to learn from them.
Personal growth isn't a linear path; it's a journey filled with twists and turns, almost like a roller coaster on Disney Land. There will be bumps along the way, moments of doubt, and times when we feel lost. But that's perfectly normal! It’s these moments where we grow and become a better version of ourselves.
Embracing our imperfections and learning from our mistakes are integral to the process. Each stumble is an opportunity to grow and become a better version of ourselves.
Conclusion
So there you have it - the journey to finding safety within ourselves. By embracing vulnerability, cultivating trust in the right people, and embracing personal growth, we empower ourselves to face life's challenges with authenticity and strength. Remember, we're all on this journey together, learning and growing every step of the way. So let's continue supporting each other as we navigate the beautiful chaos of life, secure in the knowledge that safety begins from within.
